Contradiction with Proverbs 13:24
This verse suggests that disciplining a child with the rod, which can be seen as harsh, is an act of love, whereas Colossians 3:21 advises against provoking children to anger.
Proverbs 13:24: He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Contradiction with Exodus 21:15
This verse commands that a child striking their parent is punishable by death, implying a stricter approach, whereas Colossians 3:21 promotes a gentler approach in parenting.
Exodus 21:15: And he that smiteth his father, or his mother, shall be surely put to death.
Contradiction with Deuteronomy 21:18-21
Here, a rebellious son could be stoned to death by the community, which contrasts with the encouragement for patience and understanding in Colossians 3:21.
Deuteronomy 21:18-21: If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and [that], when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them:
Contradiction with Proverbs 23:13-14
This passage advises not to withhold discipline, including physical punishment, from a child, which may provoke them, contrasting with Colossians 3:21's advice.
Proverbs 23:13-14: Withhold not correction from the child: for [if] thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Contradiction with Proverbs 29:15
Emphasizes the importance of the rod and reproof for wisdom, suggesting a more severe disciplinary approach compared to the caution against provoking anger in Colossians 3:21.
Proverbs 29:15: The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left [to himself] bringeth his mother to shame.
Paradox #1
Some people see a conflict between the advice in Colossians 3:21 about parenting and other biblical teachings on discipline. While this verse encourages fathers to be gentle to avoid discouraging their children, other parts of the Bible emphasize strict discipline. Balancing encouragement and discipline can be seen as a potential inconsistency.
Paradox #2
Colossians 3:21 could seem in conflict with verses that emphasize strict discipline, such as some interpretations of Proverbs 13:24, which talks about not sparing the rod. One verse advises against discouraging children, while the other might be seen as endorsing physical discipline. Balancing discipline with encouragement can seem contradictory if not considered in context.