Contradiction with James 3:5
This verse states that the tongue is a small member but boasts great things, suggesting that words can have large, uncontrollable impacts, conflicting with the idea that without wood (gossip), fire (strife) will go out.
James 3:5: Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! [a matter: or, wood]
Contradiction with Proverbs 15:1
This verse claims that a soft answer turns away wrath, implying words can directly impact and reduce conflict, contrary to the idea that absence of gossip entirely removes it.
Proverbs 15:1: A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Contradiction with Matthew 12:36
This verse emphasizes the importance and accountability for every idle word, suggesting that words inherently have consequence, challenging the idea that it is only the presence of gossip that perpetuates strife.
Matthew 12:36: But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.
Contradiction with James 1:26
Indicates that anyone failing to control their tongue deceives themselves and their religion is worthless, contrasting with the notion that strife requires active gossip, rather than mere verbal restraint, to be sustained.
James 1:26: If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion [is] vain.
Paradox #1
The contradiction or inconsistency could arise if someone interprets the advice to avoid repeating a behavior as being in conflict with other teachings that emphasize forgiveness or second chances. It might seem like you're being told not to bring up issues, potentially leaving problems unresolved, versus other teachings that encourage open communication and reconciliation.